Were we too young when we met?
It seems we are living the American Dream, but is the American Dream something not all of us want?
When you are married, why is that you chose to get married?
Why do you choose to stay married?
Why do you choose to be committed to this person?
How does our culture view marriage?
We have a mix of married friends, single friends, and although I do not personally know of anyone my age getting a divorce, I know a lot of people who are my age, their parents are getting divorced.
But we are now hearing people our age who are just wanting to give up. Playing with divorce in their fingers, getting a feel for it.
My husband has been working out of town a lot lately. This has been a fairly common thing for him with his job. Before we had kids it's why I got a dog! Before kids I thought about temptations he may be faced with. But they just fluttered around my mind and quickly moved on.
With kids, sometimes you can feel a bit more self conscious.
As you see so many celebrity couples cheating.
As you can find so many websites that allow you to cheat on your significant other( What the heck right?)
As you leave the t.v. on and commercials play with girls who have a seductive way about them when all it is, is just some hair shampoo.... really?
Now that I have two girls I can't believe how the idea of lust bombards you through commercials. Poisoning their little minds.
So as my husband was working out of town and they are usually going out to eat or getting a few beers, I don't worry about cheating. But should I? I mean look at our society today...
If I ever start to worry, I pray.
I trust in God who loves us. I pray for my husband and any temptation that may be taunting him.
So I got a text last week from my husband telling me how happy he is that we are still close and that he hears so many people who are not happy in their marriage or are single with kids and that our girls will grow up with both of us..
My reaction, Oh shit. What happened...
Than my oh so romantic text response is , Aww.. me too. It all comes back to Jesus though. I'm going to bed good night love you soooooooo much.
And that was that.
So when he gets home he tells me the details.This guy who is married complains about his marriage. They have been married 4 years. When the waitress is asking if they are married ( to my husband and this other man) this person replies, eh its an open relationship...
He also doesn't wear his ring. And his wife told him don't bring anything home.
What is this saying?
Why did you get married?
Today's society divorce is acceptable. Is this because we have just decided to give up?
Through Jesus we can really love. Love defends the heart.
"If the homeowner had known what time the theif was coming, he would have stayed alert and not let house be broken into." Matthew 24:43
Do we have unfair expectations on our spouses?
Marriage requires a heart of courage and a head for preemptive action.
Does it all seem like to much?
It is...
Unless you take it to Jesus.
Think of spring. How much we enjoy looking at the flowers, the beautiful colors we see popping up all over.
How many of us see a beautiful garden and think, "Boy those are some strong root systems." Yeah me either.
But if it wasn't for their attachment to a main life source and nutrients, the blooms would never have a chance to exist or open.
"Jesus described our relationship with him as being like branches attached to a vine. We depend on him. We can do nothing without him. If real, authentic, unconditional love is ever to flow from us, we must experience it flowing through us from Christ. "
We must stay connected to the vine... Think about what happens to those flowers when they don't.
This is why the love we have for our spouses can never reach its full flower until we are abiding in him through faith.
If your thinking about getting married, let me tell you, its work. It's not easy. But its like all things in life, the hard work pays off, and it's more rewarding and fulfilling than you can ever imagine.
I'm not divorcing my husband.
I am divorcing this new acceptance of giving up when something doesn't work anymore.
I'm committed to fixing something if it's broke.
Are you?
Now, don't get me wrong about divorce. Situations where someone is being harmed is different. Please do not think I'm saying if that is the case you should stay with that person.
Heck, I'm not telling you anything, just simply wondering why are so many people not staying married? :)
I pray for my daughters husbands a lot. Even more as I see my marriage change shape each year.
So today and forever let's stand up for our spouses and marriage. Let's understand how to make a marriage work and how to love like Jesus..
"Lord, keep us in your Love. Don't let us stray from you and do what you need to do to keep us from ruining our witness as your followers. Teach us to guard our hearts. In Jesus' name, amen."
